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5 Conversation Tips for Dealing with Awkward People
Author : Peter Murphy
Any good conversation tips must include reference to things you
just should not do. There are some habits that you should put a
stop to so you can communicate effectively.
People get annoyed and generally avoid those who display bad
communication habits, so learning about them and stopping them
if you do them is important to good conversation.
The following conversation tips explain some habits that people
display during conversations.
1. Talking on and on.
Also know as a blabbermouth, these people tend to monopolize the
conversation. They also are usually reduced to just chattering
away with nobody really listening. The key sign of this habit is
someone who talks non-stop and will not let pothers speak.
These people also never really seem to be talking about anything
of interest, just talking about themselves or boring subjects.
Most often someone displays this habit because he or she is
nervous. To help someone who displays this habit try to make
them feel at ease by showing interest in them and asking
questions.
2. All about me.
Someone who has this habit always turns the conversation into
something about them. They use the phrases 'me too' or 'I know
how you feel' a lot. The goal for them is to get the attention
on them and allow them to speak. Some people may do this because
they feel others are monopolizing the conversation or they may
simply want attention.
To help someone with his problem you can pay attention to them,
make them feel like they are a valued member of the
conversation. If they try to turn the conversation about them
then politely direct it back to the original person.
3. Lectures.
We all know someone who is way too willing to give advice. This
person always has an answer for any situation. They are most
often known as a know it all. They seem to know everything on
every topic. They also have a way of making their way the only
way to do anything. These people may really believe they are
helping, so it is sometimes hard to redirect the conversation
away from their lecture.
The best way to handle a know it all is to listen and thank them
for their advice, then change the subject. When the constantly
want to lecture you may want to tell them you are not really
looking for advice right now and you would like to handle it
your way. Know it alls can be the most difficult habit to handle.
4. Not contributing.
These people like to stand around and listen, but not say much.
They may interject occasionally, but usually with just a brief
sentence or one word answer. They may also never speak, but just
use4 body language. The problem here is these people can seem
like they are more eavesdropping than conversing and this can
make others in the conversation feel awkward.
To help someone who does not speak up much is to actively draw
them into the conversation. Most often people display this habit
because they are shy.
5. Gossip.
Everyone has told a juicy piece of gossip at one point or
another. Gossip can be rather damaging, especially when it isn't
true. This makes many people feel uneasy around someone who is
gossiping. Most people gossip because they feel insecure about
themselves.
They may see others lives as more exciting so they'd rather talk
about them. Try asking this person questions about their life.
Try to find something they are interested in to draw them away
from gossip and into a good conversation.
These habits can be annoying at best and conversation stoppers
at worse. You should try to improve you communication skills by
taking these habits away. If you notice someone else displaying
one of these habits you might want to use your new found
conversation tips to help them stop.
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